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Benjr134 · M
I have never cheated. However, as I’ve gotten older and looked back at my life and the lives of people I have see cheating, I have seen some arguments that are more valid. For example, I have seen this on both sides, a couple where one of them no longer has a desire for sex and the other does. They try for years to initiate intimacy without success.
My argument is, if you have made a decision to no longer want intimacy and sex you cannot expect your partner to accept it. Maybe it’s no longer your love language but it might be their love language. If the push and push and you push back then a day might come that they search elsewhere without even trying. I have seen scenarios where this happens and they meet someone of the opposite sex or even the same sex who shows them more of the love language they want. More of the intimacy they want. They might not even stop loving you they just might want the intimacy that you’re no longer willing to give. I think the moment you decide you no longer want intimacy, you should be the one to initiate a conversation about what to do next. Either letting them go, maybe opening up the relationship, or setting up a designated time and day for intimacy that you are at least comfortable with.
My argument is, if you have made a decision to no longer want intimacy and sex you cannot expect your partner to accept it. Maybe it’s no longer your love language but it might be their love language. If the push and push and you push back then a day might come that they search elsewhere without even trying. I have seen scenarios where this happens and they meet someone of the opposite sex or even the same sex who shows them more of the love language they want. More of the intimacy they want. They might not even stop loving you they just might want the intimacy that you’re no longer willing to give. I think the moment you decide you no longer want intimacy, you should be the one to initiate a conversation about what to do next. Either letting them go, maybe opening up the relationship, or setting up a designated time and day for intimacy that you are at least comfortable with.