Trauma Bond

3 months ago i left my toxic relationship, i went NC and thought i had been healing but i started feeling guilty i left the relationship and have been missing her. I have been thinking that if i had stayed longer maybe i could have made her change even though it felt like she was getting constantly irritated by my presence. I read somewhere that it i might be in a trauma bond, I just want to know if any other has been in a trauma bond, how they got out of it, and how long it took them.

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Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Continuing to maintain your NC is for the best if you have a trauma bond. It will prevent you from further abuse from that person.

The longer you go NC, the more your trauma bond will be visible to you. With time you'll start to see the toxic behaviors of the other person and your own codependent responses. The actions and words you previously ignored will eventually be seen for what they are.