I feel my gf does not value me and I don't know if I am right or wrong

Me:
- I have always been there for her and supported her by all means. I never left her disappointed.
- Even when she hurt me I did not argue with her or taunt her.
- Always tell her I love her and always makes initiative to meet

She:
- Rarely tells me she loves me.
- Is distant most of the times.
- She says she has been hurt many times before that's why she is hard to get.
- Blames me when she is the one who has done wrong.
- Never asks me how I feel and never tells me she misses me
- Rarely takes initiative
- Rarely says thank you when I do good for her

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Casheyane · F

When did you start to count?
I don't think love has a way to be measured.

Because what you are capable of, she may not be. And vice versa. And what is one hundred% for you may be different from her, not because love is not there. But because love reflects differently with different people.

It's like this. You cannot give what you do not have. And your love language may be different from her.

But what you can do is learn to adapt and communicate.

I live with two people that society would not call living on the norm. They have their own beliefs and for a long while, it felt they didn't love me enough. Focusing on that made me bitter.

But then, I started expecting less from them and just loving myself more. And now, I am happy as can be. Because along the way, I learned that they also needed a different kind of love. The love I gave before was wanting to control and change them into a picture of what I think is better.
But they could not do that because their own expression of love is different.

Now, I have learned to adapt and help them grow. And little by little, in their own little ways, I too have started to see it. How they love. It is very different to what I pictured before. But it is uniquely them, and it is beautiful.