Ended a 16 Years of Marriage

Basically I am a victim of an online fraud/scam. I lost almost all of my life personal savings. I told my husband about it, but instead, he went mental at me, and did not keep it confidential from our daughter. I told him because I wanted a support from him. My daughter got involved and they both started harassing me. I rang 999 to report as I did not feel safe. I was accused by both of them, that I never contributed anything in our household, despite the fact that I pay for groceries, eating out and leisures. I also furnished most of the major things in the house including all the kitchen essentials. But it's all nothing. My husband is more bothered about me, having a personal savings.

The police officers took me to my friend's house so that I could be away from the situation. I was about to leave yesterday got back home to say bye to my daughter, but she decided to come with me instead. She said she wants to move back to the Philippines with me.

I feel nothing for my husband anymore. All I feel right now is anger and my fixed decision to move on. I feel like, the situation became the turning point, to stop the cycle of the toxic relationship. After 16 years of marriage, I finally concluded that my husband, never loved me.

TBH, I really don't want to stay with my husband anymore. This is the end. 16 years is enough.😭

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CassandraSissy · 26-30, TVIP

So he's took money from your previous joint account before? Blinkin' heck! That's not on!

Truth be told, if my fella fell for a scam like that and blew all his savings I'd too get very angry; Both angry at him and angry [i]for[/i] him. If it's over a job I would have hoped that we would have had some semblance of a conversation about it, and the potential cost, rather than do it on his own....used me as a sounding board.

And there's the thing, for me; you didn't engage him in conversation about it before it happened. So that tells me there's a lack of trust there and a lack of mutual support.

Then all the talk of you contributing nothing to the household? Shame on them both! I'd certainly kick him to the curb...your daughter? She has to earn that respect that you would have for her. She needs to jump through an awful lot of hoops for me to accept her apology, let me tell you, sweetie!!!!

I wish you well in the future, however things turn out...

😘

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@CassandraSissy You were on point in there. I actually told him about the job, when the so called company, paid me at first, to gain my trust. When I completed the first set of task, it was actually believable as they immediately paid me. That's when they got my details and hack my account. 😞

I understand he got angry, but not because of the scam. He was angry because I had "personal" savings. He wasn't aware about it as we both have our own personal accounts, as I refused to have joint account because of what happened in the past. And I'm entitled to have my own savings. I don't know what he has in his bank account.

Yes, my daughter disrespected me, that's because of what he told her. Now, that me and my daughter are in the Philippines, she's beginning to understand that I pay for most things. TBH, she should have not got involved with the issue. 😢
She never said sorry (by saying the exact words). She said sorry by hugging me (while crying ) telling me that she wants to come with me and build a new life.

I'm hoping for the best.
I'm angry, for the fact, that my husband did not even fight for his family.
Time will tell, in time, there would be a better life for us. 👏🏻👏🏻💙