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Would you feel hurt or no?

A concert of someone my husband and I have listened to since we were teenagers, was happening in our city. We didn’t think we’d be able to afford to go, so we didn’t buy tickets. Then, last minute, we realized that we could go. So we bought tickets and were SO excited to go. It’s all we’ve been talking about…

Anyways, two weeks before the concert I’m busting my ass working (so is he) but I happen to have other stuff going on too outside of work like extra appointments, a bachelorette for my cousin, etc. So I’ve been running on empty and feeling extra exhausted. I end up getting a horrible cold the day before the concert. Mind you I’ve been working two jobs..The night before the concert, my husband goes out with his friends and comes home and admits to me that he “almost lost $150 from gambling on a bet” and how the “universe stopped him from spending/losing” and “it was a close call” because we can’t afford to lose $150. I didn’t make a big deal out of it because he didn’t lose the money, but I thought to myself “that’s irresponsible for someone who is already tight on money.”

So on the day of the concert, my husband takes one look at me and goes “you don’t look well at all” (I wasn’t) and he goes “I better sell your ticket asap” “We NEED that money”

Is it wild of me to be extremely hurt and jealous about this? It’s not fair how i had to miss something I was so excited for and have been looking forward to, and this was supposed to be our outing together for the fall since we didn’t do much in the summer besides work and family stuff. And he replaced me with a friend to go to the concert to without hesitation. He didn’t even seem that upset that I wouldn’t be able to make it…I obviously didn’t really expect him to stay home with me while I’m sick, because he never has done that for me anyways, but….it’s how quickly he found a backup plan. He didn’t even prod me to see if maybe I would feel well enough to end up going. I can’t stop thinking about this.
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When I'm ill it's obvious. No one would need to ask.
Plus I wouldn't want to risk infecting others.
He and I usually have at least a whole day together each weekend to do something enjoyable,
so it wouldn't be like we were missing out on time together.
I wouldn't be jealous because, although my husband has lots of women friends, none find him sexually attractive. (He's 5'2'' tall, hunch backed, 75 yrs old & the wind has trouble filling his flag.)
I'd have been happy that he had company to share the concert, and relieved that I could stay home alone in peace.
Yes, it's wonderful to listen to one's favourite music live, feel the atmosphere, and see what the musos are like without all the engineering and perfection of a recording. But another opportunity to see them will come again some day.
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I'd be more concerned about the gambling. If it's an addiction then you'd be powerless to prevent him. If he risks financial ruin, I'd set up a separate bank account and begin to save 10% of each paypack in case it ever comes to a break up.