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Would you feel hurt or no?

A concert of someone my husband and I have listened to since we were teenagers, was happening in our city. We didn’t think we’d be able to afford to go, so we didn’t buy tickets. Then, last minute, we realized that we could go. So we bought tickets and were SO excited to go. It’s all we’ve been talking about…

Anyways, two weeks before the concert I’m busting my ass working (so is he) but I happen to have other stuff going on too outside of work like extra appointments, a bachelorette for my cousin, etc. So I’ve been running on empty and feeling extra exhausted. I end up getting a horrible cold the day before the concert. Mind you I’ve been working two jobs..The night before the concert, my husband goes out with his friends and comes home and admits to me that he “almost lost $150 from gambling on a bet” and how the “universe stopped him from spending/losing” and “it was a close call” because we can’t afford to lose $150. I didn’t make a big deal out of it because he didn’t lose the money, but I thought to myself “that’s irresponsible for someone who is already tight on money.”

So on the day of the concert, my husband takes one look at me and goes “you don’t look well at all” (I wasn’t) and he goes “I better sell your ticket asap” “We NEED that money”

Is it wild of me to be extremely hurt and jealous about this? It’s not fair how i had to miss something I was so excited for and have been looking forward to, and this was supposed to be our outing together for the fall since we didn’t do much in the summer besides work and family stuff. And he replaced me with a friend to go to the concert to without hesitation. He didn’t even seem that upset that I wouldn’t be able to make it…I obviously didn’t really expect him to stay home with me while I’m sick, because he never has done that for me anyways, but….it’s how quickly he found a backup plan. He didn’t even prod me to see if maybe I would feel well enough to end up going. I can’t stop thinking about this.
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You are totally in the right here. I can't even imagine he would do that to you. This is just outrageous behavior, not fair at all. You have every right to feel the way you do. I'm not married, but I would be livid if my husband did that to me. Do you know who this person was that he took with him to the concert? Are you sure? It was so irresponsible in the first place, of him to blow $150 on gambling when he knows everything is tight and you need that money for whatever purpose comes along. I am just furious about this I tell you. The injustice. He certainly didn't seem to have your feelings in mind. Sounds like he needs to grow up, I'm sorry to say.
1dayiWILLbRICH0 · 31-35, F
@LadyGrace okay so I’m not going crazy 🥲
@1dayiWILLbRICH0 no dear, you certainly are not.
Kstrong · 56-60, F
@1dayiWILLbRICH0 np youre not going crazy, yes he needs to grow up, make you his priority.. not his friends.. . You shouldn't have to compete for his attention and he needs to be mindful of not spending hard earned income on extra curricular activities

I can relate all to well, and should have made changes much earlier than I did. I'm making up for lost time now, but am so happy with the changes I made and moving ahead in life... Braveheart21 can attest to that