Without being mean, what would you think if you found out your boyfriend didn't know you don't cook raw meat by putting it in the microwave?

He thought he could put raw bacon in a microwave and cook it. He said, "You can cook bacon in a microwave! I have plenty times before." I told him that was precooked bacon. He realized I was right when he looked it up.

I wasn't ugly or anything, but it did concern me. He's 43 years old and doesn't know you cannot cook raw meat in a microwave. It makes me wonder if he'll ever be serious with a woman who isn't a huge cook. I remember back when he initially asked me if I could cook. Now it makes more sense why he seemed to care more than previous boyfriends.

Update: This looks disgusting and is not how bacon is supposed to taste or look! Lol... not in the southern part of the USA for sure.

https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/a27117027/microwave-bacon/

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LoneVoice

Yeah, Keep looking for those red flags and analyzing everyone's every move and before you know it, you'll be 67 and alone.
Or you can roll and enjoy life along with it's many ups and downs.

perceptivei · 36-40, F

@LoneVoice Oh, I'm analyzing it to prevent being alone forever. I'm not a picky person..
If I were, I wouldn't have gotten with him in the first place. The reason it concerned me is because I don't want to waste my time. If he's never going to get serious with me (i don't cook regularly like his mother does for him), then I want to know. I don't want to waste my time. I'm not judging him. I'm only trying to be realistic with myself.

LoneVoice

@perceptivei I get your point, and MY point is, what will be the heinous deal breaker with the next guy, and the next, and the next? Cooking bacon seems pretty minor to me, AND he did admit you were right. How rare is that? But women today only see the cloud, never the silver lining.
If he's a full blown mama's boy, that IS a valid concern.

perceptivei · 36-40, F

@LoneVoice Yeah. He might be... I'm not sure.

No. I will forgive almost any "flaw". I don't even really see that as a flaw. You're describing the opposite of me. I'm simply concerned he won't ever get serious with a woman unless she cooks for him regularly.

I promise you I'm not looking for a reason to leave him. I've never been that way in my life. I'm trying to be realistic though. He does have commitment issues, he said. And, I'm not a cook like he'd want. And, he loves to eat... that is definitely the way to his heart. Now that I know he didn't know how to cook bacon for himself, I realize just how dependent he would be or is (his mom) on a woman who can cook.

LoneVoice

@perceptivei When I was married and in other relationships, I did most of the cooking. Good too. I loved it and I still do. Tell him if he doesn't cook, he doesn't eat. lol... once he upchucks his own mistakes, he will learn.

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perceptivei · 36-40, F

@LoneVoice My dad was the cook in my family. So, it's difficult for me to understand a man that doesn't know how to cook bacon.

perceptivei · 36-40, F

@Misspotat My point is he [i]does care[/i]. He will not accept that. He wants a woman to cook for him daily. And, he would find it unacceptable is [i]she[/i] used a microwave to cook.

I'm just trying to be realistic with myself that he might never get serious with me.

*Without being mean*, what would you think if you found out your boyfriend didn't know you don't cook raw meat by putting it in the microwave?

Without being mean, what would you think if you found out your boyfriend didn't know you don't cook raw meat by putting it in the microwave?