Asking for a friend

How much time do you think is too much time apart?

What is your minimum? What is your max? How much time to you think is healthy to go without seeing a partner?

I'm so used to clingy/dependent relationships that my current partner seems to be quite independent, and I'm not used to the amount of time he can go without speaking or seeing me. I'm not sure if he is somewhat avoidant of commitment or if I am too clingy, or if both things are true at the same time.

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Threepio

Each couple is different.

If one has been (or is) in the military, then separations are expected. The bigger issue there, as with most separations, is how the 2 act when they get back together. One has taken over all the daily household stuff (mow the lawn, wash the car ect) and usually the other wants his/her responsibilities back the minute they step back into the picture.... These things work themselves out over time, but in the near term it can be stressful.

Like them, communication is the key. During separations one needs to keep the communications flowing. You both want/need the other to express how much they miss/love you. So do it....text, calls, messenger....

Directly to your question: I don't have a minimum or a maximum. I can tell you that my spouse travels overseas once a year or so and sometimes stays for several months. We stay in constant communication.