Have you ever self-sabotaged a relationship before? I didn't want to but I felt like I had to because he would say all the right things and act like

Since I think people who say everything perfect, and feels like a perfect match … It’s possible that he was a player. The more charming the more naughty. The less likely. I try to remind myself about that. Have no regrets. If you were the right one he would come after you with a vengeance.

You might have really hurt someone sensitive and genuine. I've been hurt like that before. It leaves a lasting mark.

What did you do to sabotage it?

Well just remember what assume means

I have sped up the process