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Who is in the wrong and how do I handle this?

Me and my boyfriend recently got back together but we are having our first argument. He stated a friend from high school is visiting before he moves away for three years. But that him and his friends want to go clubbing. All of his friends are single except him. I told him I’m not comfortable with him going to a club. He told me “I’m gonna be honest, I’m gonna go regardless” and of course I got upset.
Basically he gave the choice of going home or keep spending the day with him after he said an apology. My therapist told me to get space when I am angry so I decided to go home. He proceeded to not speak to me the rest of the day. When I contacted him he said I disrespected him and his time. That he planned things but I ruined the plans with my immaturity. I feel like I’m right but maybe I’m wrong and I just don’t know how to handle this.
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Well let's turn it around .

You're going away for three years and he tells his friends , "hey I'm spending the night with her ", and they go , but dude...you're our buddy, what about us?
Should he stay with them instead?

What if it was one of your girlfriend's , and they asked you out coz they won't see you again for three years ?
Should he get angry cos you wanna go on a girl's night out with someone you won't see again for ages ?

Has he proven to be untrustworthy before ?
Is it him or is it your insecurity that is causing this distrust ?
And how can someone earn your trust if you don't give them the opportunity ?

Love isn't ownership of a whole person .
They [b][i]give [/i][/b] you their heart freely .
You hold it freely .

Is it love if you confine someone's life to your wants only ?

Love IS compromise between you both .
It's freedom with commitment .

Would you want to forced to ignore all your friends for him ?