Who is in the wrong and how do I handle this?

Me and my boyfriend recently got back together but we are having our first argument. He stated a friend from high school is visiting before he moves away for three years. But that him and his friends want to go clubbing. All of his friends are single except him. I told him I’m not comfortable with him going to a club. He told me “I’m gonna be honest, I’m gonna go regardless” and of course I got upset.
Basically he gave the choice of going home or keep spending the day with him after he said an apology. My therapist told me to get space when I am angry so I decided to go home. He proceeded to not speak to me the rest of the day. When I contacted him he said I disrespected him and his time. That he planned things but I ruined the plans with my immaturity. I feel like I’m right but maybe I’m wrong and I just don’t know how to handle this.

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campfireandstars · 41-45, M

this goes both ways, even when you want to do something he doesn't like. We all have a choice. i think you overreacted by blowing up being angry not on. What he is doing but on how he answered you. this isn't every weekend or weekday(based on post). the feelings you are feeling are what could happen not will happen. if you are still mad just for going out and you think something will happen join them this is your choice. You are his gf saying no to you joining is a red flag. if you don't go. there is no reason to be mad. this isn't an immaturity thing. this is a controlling and insecurity on your part. having no trust in your bf is a red flag for you on yourself. this why he answer you in the way he did(most men don't, they leave the relationship). you have no right to stop him from living his life and vice versa .