Who is in the wrong and how do I handle this?

Me and my boyfriend recently got back together but we are having our first argument. He stated a friend from high school is visiting before he moves away for three years. But that him and his friends want to go clubbing. All of his friends are single except him. I told him I’m not comfortable with him going to a club. He told me “I’m gonna be honest, I’m gonna go regardless” and of course I got upset.
Basically he gave the choice of going home or keep spending the day with him after he said an apology. My therapist told me to get space when I am angry so I decided to go home. He proceeded to not speak to me the rest of the day. When I contacted him he said I disrespected him and his time. That he planned things but I ruined the plans with my immaturity. I feel like I’m right but maybe I’m wrong and I just don’t know how to handle this.

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

So are you afraid he'll do something he shouldn't while out clubbing with his mates or are you just wanting to keep him away from his outside influences that aren't connected to you ?

Lupepnte

@Picklebobble2 I’m scared he will do something with his mates. He tends to do anything they do. Like he’s easily influenced. And he has a history of cheating.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@Lupepnte He has a reputation for cheating but you're still with him ?
Begs the question why ?

Lupepnte

@Picklebobble2 it was with his last girlfriend not me. But I still get insecure about places like clubs. I feel like they could go somewhere like a restaurant, golfing, bowling, etc. why need a club where plenty of singles are around.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@Lupepnte There'll likely be other women in those places too.
You think there's less chance of him cheating in that scenario ?

Lupepnte

@Picklebobble2 i do, i feel like clubs are where you go to party with other singles or your partner. I wish it was respected opinion

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@Lupepnte That is certainly a woman's perspective.
'why allow him the opportunity ?'
Look only you know how your man thinks.
From the question you posed it just sounds like 'a boys night out'.
Meeting up with friends. Going somewhere that plays godawful music; paying over the odds for drinks you don't really want; chatting to people in that environment; spending way over the odds for entry then coming away trying to kid yourself you've had a good time.
It's something of a boy's rite of passage. Especially if they're intending to settle down.
But if you suspect he's looking for the opportunity to cheat that suggests you don't entirely trust him to begin with