Why relationships collapse?

Why do people enter into relationships in the first place?

It's all about self-satisfaction. This includes physical, emotional, or social fulfillment, the lack of which appears to leave a gap in our lives. A sense of emptiness that we try to fill with various acts, including relationships.

We need to get this straight. We are individuals first and then partners. Everyone has a good, bad, and ugly side, and our aspirations are different.

You should be fine as long as you each contribute to the satisfaction, need, and ambitions of the other. Otherwise, it's a house of cards, and it's just a matter of time before it collapses.

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NativePortlander1970 ·

Those who enter relationships based on deception rarely last longer after the subterfuge is discovered.

Renkon · 41-45, M

@NativePortlander1970 Why put in so much effort to start a relationship on a deceptive note? What do they stand to gain from it?

NativePortlander1970 ·

@Renkon If they're unaware of the deception, they will enter into the relationship completely blind, they will think it's a normal relationship and try to strengthen it. I have personal experience with this, I had no idea that my late Fiancee was baiting me to get another man jealous enough to leave his own common law wife and their child to be with her. Eight years together, a year before she died from lung issues, she finally confessed to me what she was doing at the start, then everything made sense. I was packed and gone within the hour.

Renkon · 41-45, M

@NativePortlander1970 8 years?! Why do they live such a deceitful life for so long? Nobody benefits from this.

NativePortlander1970 ·

@Renkon Because she claimed when she confessed to me that I eventually won her over.