You should see the other guy!

Some times we meet someone whom had struggled with others oppression, abuse or whatever bad, horrible or devastating experience...we see them scarred and frigile and we think "ok, they need our love and surely they will notice the difference between how we treat them and their past". we start having expectations of how much love, care or respect we would recieve in return but some times that will not happen because what we didn't know is that those scars are not the scars of a helpless victim but the scars of a veteran fighter and you should see the other guy(s) whom stumbled with him/her

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ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

Men are often subject to the hero mentality, then realize later some crazy can't be fixed no matter how much rescuing they try and do.

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@ravenwind43 Guilty...

inaccessible · 51-55, M

@ravenwind43
I guess thats true

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@ravenwind43 The actions are sincere and from the heart. When discovered that you can't fix things, it is a real letdown.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Livingwell I suppose my motivation for saying what I said is part resentment and part truth. I work on myself to be a balanced individual and handle my past issues the best I can. I am still alone, and I see women who are mentally unstable having men falling all over them. So ...yeah....lol

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@ravenwind43 I understand. I believe that availability plays a large part in that. Many of those getting attention are outgoing and possibly not aware of their issues. People like you are focused on taking care of yourself. The attention those other people receive is likely not well intentioned. They are a target.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Livingwell That is a good point!

inaccessible · 51-55, M

@ravenwind43
"Mentally unstable" came pretty accurate, she was, and yes men was falling all over but no one was accepted, i thought i was special, but it turned out i was assessed to fit the criteria...someone who can stand crazy shit.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@inaccessible I think our upbringing often influences the type of person we go after too. If we learned bad habits we will take them into our adult relationships even subconsciously.

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@ravenwind43 Totally agree.