Do I have to break up with my gf because she is unemployed and seems unable to find work?

My gf was fired from her job last year on May 1. Her parents currently support her. She in unable to provide anything in our relationship financially and everything we do I have been paying for. I want to do things.. things like travel… and buy a home and move on with adult life.

She is a good girl from a good family. She is young and smart too. I don’t want to leave her but I’m starting to feel compelled.

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Elisbch · M

I'm not so sure what you're reading are judgments. I think maybe if you read between the lines you may find your answers. 🙂

Good luck.

Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

@Elisbch why don’t you just say what you mean instead of being snide about it. Can’t anyone see that I’m worried for her? Worried about our future? It’s making me sick. I’m up nights. I don’t want to leave her but I don’t know how more I can take.

Elisbch · M

I did say what I meant.... based on what you said your thinking/feelings are in your original post.
No offense meant, but when money appears it's the main thing that seems to be of importance..... ?
@Muthafukajones

Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

@Elisbch I live in an expensive city and the cost of living is crushing me. Having an unemployable partner is raising my anxiety to very high levels.

Elisbch · M

Correct me if I'm wrong but I think you said she chose to have her parents support her in her own apartment? @Muthafukajones

You see, in your last paragraph that same tone seems to ring through.... me me me me is suffering. There is no doubt your girlfriend is feeling this already as well.

Everyone has gone through extraordinarily hard times in one way or another (and many) lately in the last 3 years or so and I don't see it getting any better any time soon. To make relationships work we have to make sacrifices. Personally I'd rather be sitting in my living room watching television and listening to radio shows with someone that loves and supports me and vice versa than worry about where the money is going to come from for the next cruise or whatever.
We all adjust and somehow live with what we have in the end but for many, being alone and loneliness can and will die some take on entitling different meanings when one get decades older than you are.

You only have to make one decision. If your lifestyle and what you want is more important than being there for her then that answers your question.