Do I have to break up with my gf because she is unemployed and seems unable to find work?

My gf was fired from her job last year on May 1. Her parents currently support her. She in unable to provide anything in our relationship financially and everything we do I have been paying for. I want to do things.. things like travel… and buy a home and move on with adult life.

She is a good girl from a good family. She is young and smart too. I don’t want to leave her but I’m starting to feel compelled.

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Lanie78 · 46-50, F

Going on what you've said, you're not fully invested in the relationship if money matters more anyway 🤷

Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

@Lanie78 I can’t just endlessly wait for her to become employed. What to do?

Lanie78 · 46-50, F

@Muthafukajones Be supportive.
Yes money matters, but if you're constantly thinking she isn't paying her way then that manifests and she'll feel pressured. If you love her, help her to find employment. Don't expect a relationship to ever work if you're only in it to help pay the bills!

Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

@Lanie78 I don’t need her to pay my bills. I can’t afford to pay hers and mine too. She can live with me but she chooses to be supported by her parents in her own apartment. If it was just her living here and eating food it wouldn’t be a big deal but she can’t pay for anything.

Elisbch · M

Everyone's future is uncertain.
What we do in the present can help (we hope) to build the future we would like to have.... alone or with someone. The only way to find out what your future is, is to stay the course and prepare constantly the very best we can. Being supportive and showing someone you want to be that for them is many times worth more to someone than any monetary value.

Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

@Elisbch ok that’s why I’ve stayed so far. I guess I’ll give it some more time.