Why did he say that to me?

I found out the guy I was seeing is married. I loved him so much and I was devastated that he was lying to me the whole time. I confronted him as soon as I found out. When we met to talk, he couldn’t even look me in the eyes and I saw the tears in his eyes. I have been really struggling these past few months. When I told him on text how much he hurt me and how much I have cried, I asked him are you hurting by how much you have hurt me and he said do you think I am made of steel? I told him I have cried so much and I asked him have you cried? He wouldn’t answer me that question and just said I’m not answering that question. Why did he say that to me?

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Silla71 · 51-55, F

Ummmm, why did he do that to his wife? That would be a better title.
I wonder if she's cried? Or is she being left in the dark. You're still talking to him which is absolutely a no no. On top of that, asking about his feelings? You should not even be texting him.
I'm sorry you got slided, manipulated, and hurt but you're not to be in this relationship. He's gross. Run
Team poor Wife, here

PepsiColaP

He is being manipulative , if he cared about how he has affected you he would at least answer your questions honestly without alluding you to having to interpret things yourself especially when you are emotionally charged and overwhelmed ,which he is aware of. I understand it's hard but you would be happier long term if you left , you are being manipulated , weather he realises or not ,he is still manipulating you

GohantheThird · M

Unfortunately, there really isn't anything he can do to change the situation. It sounds like he is letting you vent your frustration out on him, and he's ignoring what he sees as begging and pleading.

My advice: breakup with him and cut off contact. Does wonders.

Bleak · 36-40, F

Disgusting guy

WandererTony · 56-60, M

Because he didn’t cry and didn’t want to say that. Seems more romantic if you think he cried but doesn’t want you to know and feel bad about him. So he is still playing the game. Beware 😀

SW-User

He doesn't care or he would have been strong enough not to do that to either one of you. Or told the truth and given you a choice. Take his away now. I'm very sorry for you though.

Bklynbadboy12 · 31-35, M

Hes basically saying do you really have to ask me that cause you know im hurting but that bull shit he knew what he was doing

BeefySenpie · M

Doesn't matter whether he cried or not. If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you later. Move on

Bextman · 46-50, M

You still hanging out with him? When will they learn?

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