Husband likes to dancing with me, to see if women flirt with him

My husband of 25 years just recently informed me that when we go dancing, he doesn’t particularly loves to dance with me but he likes to see if other women check him out.
To hear this, broke my heart. I honestly thought that it was a bonding activity for him as well. Dancing with him made me feel loved and desired.
Now, I do not feel like going dancing with my husband ever again. Which is a shame since we are both ok dancers.
Anyone has any advice or a similar experience?

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PepsiColaP

People want to be wanted , it isn't weird he enjoys that . But did he confess that to you because he trusts you and feels comfortable being open/honest that way or to hurt you/upset you knowing you would feel hurt by that? It is more so the intentions /context of him admitting to that for me than what he said rlly

SW-User

Yeah and his wife wants to be wanted by him, she doesn’t need to know that he likes to be wanted by other women lol can’t be all excepting re his desires with zero regard for herself or they may as well be swingers

You’re missing the point entirely lol… 25 years isn’t something to be passive/meh about it’s something to be passionate about.

The guy should be more attentive to his wife.

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PepsiColaP

@SW-User wanting to be wanted by others doesn't mean you want them back too. He can be commited to her and choose her ,just as much as she does with him , but still want to be found desirable in general. Swinging is entirely different lol

SW-User

Nah that’s a vague outlook to have re commitment

Different hats for different cats

That’s for sure … lol being so passive when it comes to a relationship is borderline swingers …

Admiration on the other hand … that’s different 😌✨@PepsiColaP

PepsiColaP

@SW-User agree to disagree haha

SW-User

😎🤭😄@PepsiColaP