Husband likes to dancing with me, to see if women flirt with him

My husband of 25 years just recently informed me that when we go dancing, he doesn’t particularly loves to dance with me but he likes to see if other women check him out.
To hear this, broke my heart. I honestly thought that it was a bonding activity for him as well. Dancing with him made me feel loved and desired.
Now, I do not feel like going dancing with my husband ever again. Which is a shame since we are both ok dancers.
Anyone has any advice or a similar experience?

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Carissimi · F

Now you know what he thinks of you. Heartbreaking, yes, but better you know the truth about how he really feels about you.

perceptivei · 36-40, F

@Carissimi Were they arguing though? Had they been? Maybe he was trying to hurt her. Doesn't make it any better either way...

Carissimi · F

I don’t know, but it doesn’t matter. What he said was cruel and heartless ... unless he was joking. We only know what the poster tells us. @perceptivei

perceptivei · 36-40, F

@Carissimi I hope it isn't true.

Tengo · 46-50, F

@perceptivei no, no argueing, just answering the psychologists’ question if he enjoyed going out to dance together as much as I do (did).

perceptivei · 36-40, F

@Tengo Urgh. He was trying to hurt you. Whatever. I don't believe him.

Everyone is worried about change. He noticed men looking at YOU! Or, he's afraid it might happen.

He's mean for saying that. But, you know him better than we do. Is he always mean? If not, find out why he's feeling so insecure.