Husband likes to dancing with me, to see if women flirt with him

My husband of 25 years just recently informed me that when we go dancing, he doesn’t particularly loves to dance with me but he likes to see if other women check him out.
To hear this, broke my heart. I honestly thought that it was a bonding activity for him as well. Dancing with him made me feel loved and desired.
Now, I do not feel like going dancing with my husband ever again. Which is a shame since we are both ok dancers.
Anyone has any advice or a similar experience?

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

Have you told him how this news affects you?

In your reply below, you say that he likes seeing men check you out. Maybe he assumes that you like it if he gets similar attention from women, and so he has absolutely no idea how hurtful his comment was for you.

Tengo · 46-50, F

@DrWatson no, he knows I don’t like to flirt or seduce other men because I find it immoral. I don’t want to make a man lose his time with me since nothing will happen as long as I am married. I know flirting can be like a game but I feel uncomfortable pretending. I am an open book and don’t play game, especially with other people’s feelings. My husband would like me to feel less serious about it and flirt like anyone else. He won’t agree for me to have a relationship with someone else but told me that if men ate interested in me, it makes me a woman (and not a mom for example).

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@Tengo In that case, I would say that he is not being very respectful of you at all.