Husband likes to dancing with me, to see if women flirt with him

My husband of 25 years just recently informed me that when we go dancing, he doesn’t particularly loves to dance with me but he likes to see if other women check him out.
To hear this, broke my heart. I honestly thought that it was a bonding activity for him as well. Dancing with him made me feel loved and desired.
Now, I do not feel like going dancing with my husband ever again. Which is a shame since we are both ok dancers.
Anyone has any advice or a similar experience?

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StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

Wow. I hope you let him know how that made you feel.

Tengo · 46-50, F

@StevetheSleeve i did but it did not have the effect I had hoped for. He told me he understands but also that it is important for me to dance (it is my favorite activity) and that I should go dancing without him then. He doesn’t want to take that pleasure away from me.

StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

@Tengo Oh man. After 25 years he suddenly shows this insensitivity? He needs to tell you what his problem really is.

mynameisbradley · 36-40, M

@Tengo thats lame so sorry you had to feel that way from your husband. Dont stop being you. Some people become complacent or dont think what they may say how it will affect those they lovel. Or what they do.

Tengo · 46-50, F

@StevetheSleeve he lacks self confidence and is always looking for recognition, in anything he does.

StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

@Tengo Oh. But he should know you better than to talk to you like that.

Tengo · 46-50, F

@mynameisbradley I won’t. I am looking for friends to go dancing with me. I always try to remember that we are responsible for our own happiness but I am very disappointed that I didn’t catch that for 25 years.