Why bother?

Poll - Total Votes: 13

Better to have anyone than be lonely.

Better to be alone than be manipulated.

Ive been lucky and found someone that is perfect.

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Im guessing most people in a "relationship" are not with the first person they ever went with as a younger person.
I dont know anyone like that,who have been together since they were like 16 ,and with no-one else.
So with that probably came some heartache for at least one person anyway,so i often wonder,is why do humans have this thing about being with someone?
Two people kind of elect to "hang out"with each other,and they enjoy each other,then over time,usually all seems to break down,the bonds weaken,and almost inevitably they split.Causing heartache maybe for at least one of the pair,if not both.There might be a betrayal.
Which leads to another topic.Why do people in "relationships" cheat sometimes?Knowing this will likely hurt the person they are supposed to "love"..I guess most people you meet are carrying the scars of some great lost love.A person they thought was just so wonderful,yet somehow did not feel the same.
I was hurt badly in my life just once,and since then ive been very cautious,almost hurtful myself.
Maybe thats the way love goes.Everyone getting hurt,and then paying it forward to the next poor sap...
Why do we bother?Is it fear of lonliness?You just put up with some disrespect,if that person still stays around,like at least youve got someone?Yet running the risk of being hurt,in the HOPE that this time it will be alright?
I hope if you read this,your life has been happy and meaningful in your relationships.
Human behaviour is so fascinating.

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ArtieKat · M

I dont know anyone like that,who have been together since they were like 16 ,and with no-one else.

I know one couple who I was at school with - just turning 70 now - who have been together since they were about 15. I know that longevity is very rare in the baby-boom generation

ronisme1 · 61-69, M

My parents were together as first boyfriend/girlfriend 68 years until they died. I was married to my first girlfriend for 17 years, didnt give up, remarried 29 years now

valobasa4ever · F

Single isn't a status ..But it's a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live & enjoy life without depending on anyone...

OpalFlower · 36-40, F

@valobasa4ever To be honest being with someone or anyone has been a headache lately. Where it seems like most times in order to create peace all majority can do these days is say "Right you make total complete sense. Thank you." nod and smile. Then move on because the slightest wrong thing said within any relationship causes folks to be offended. So I am communicating with people less and minding my own business.

valobasa4ever · F

@OpalFlower Well said.

BatmanIRL · T

My partner and I have been on and off since we were 13.

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OpalFlower · 36-40, F

@Coralmist If you experience anxiety when interacting with others then I am sorry dear. I literally feel like the world has way too much going on with a lot of people on it to cater to which is a major headache. To the point that it might make me feel worse especially if I say or do something that wasn't fitting for them. I just do others a favor and limit my interactions with them. I prefer short communications with others online who have similar mindsets as me where no one feels bad in the end.

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