Has anyone dealt with a narcissistic partner?
Has anyone dealt with a narcissistic partner? Any tips on maintaining this type of relationship without getting emotionally invested? Can’t leave due to my son.
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Teach yourself not to react when they try to goad you into an argument. Think carefully before you say anything to them, they can start an argument with pretty much anything. If in doubt, just don't start the conversation.
Don't get drawn into an argument, agree if you have to or show indifference. Learn to neutralise their need for conflict.
It's not an ideal solution but, if you can't get away, it might make your life a bit more bearable.
Don't get drawn into an argument, agree if you have to or show indifference. Learn to neutralise their need for conflict.
It's not an ideal solution but, if you can't get away, it might make your life a bit more bearable.
thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M
@PhlipipUK Wise. I know how I dealt with my ex, who I don't feel was narcissistic, more prone to argument. She had no escape from arguing; it was her (learned) nature. But whatever the case here, if someone is not listening to the other, one needs to learn to set a boundary.
Bang5luts · M
Yes, keep emotional distance. Leave whenever they try to push you into doing things you don't want to. Walk away, don't argue because they are masters at it like most people master breathing or sleeping. Never engage in disagreements with them just act as if they aren't talking and walk away, don't answer texts, don't answer your phone. Go do whatever makes you happy within the confines of your relationship and invest in decent ear buds to block out their bs. Good luck. I truly hope it helps
Dust057 · 46-50
Not with a partner but with a parent and a sibling. It's rough, basically its' worth it to bail but if you really, really have to stay then idk you can go two ways either fight it and try to keep them from getting too big but that's a heap of stress and a battle every day. Other way to go is ignore them whenever possible but that can also go wrong if they decide to get big and get abusive thinking you being unengaged is submission.
You say you gotta stay for the son, but keeping him around that is worse than a lot of other things, because it could stick with him for life to have that influence how he grows up. That's what happened to my sister, she got traumatized for life. Me and my other siblings too to some extent but one sis got it the worst of all of us.
You say you gotta stay for the son, but keeping him around that is worse than a lot of other things, because it could stick with him for life to have that influence how he grows up. That's what happened to my sister, she got traumatized for life. Me and my other siblings too to some extent but one sis got it the worst of all of us.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Rhode57 · 56-60, M
@zonavar68 Yes my daughter still lives with her mum with my grandson and she seems to get on with her mum although she told me she has days where she wants to get away when mum gets over bearing . I told her I will never go back with her mum as I would be suicidal within weeks . I dont like arguing etc its not me .
NoGamesTolerated · F
akindheart · 61-69, F
thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M
Maybe, but I have to say this, honestly... it's become a term so overused, it can paint the person bleak. I felt my ex, gaslighted me... but truth be told, maybe she only held concern? I thought her possibly narcissistic... Just be careful with the terms, as you might find yourself painting those with normal emotions in a way you can't handle. (only you know). I know my observation, thought, won't be the popular one, but care is not about finding support in reaction (emojis).
zonavar68 · 51-55, M
@thewindupbirdchronicles gaslighting is something I definitely don't understand, but your observation is correct that we interpret the behaviours of a person differently because we have a connection to the person and that somewhat skews and/or modifies things.
thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M
@zonavar68 One way to see it... but that really only says, those who affect us, affect us.... Yes, it "modifies" our perception, and I only brought up gaslighting in perception, to not say she did, but to emphasize if we use terms that maybe don't entirely reflect how we really feel, it creates misunderstandings..
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
allygator18 · 22-25, F
its tough when he has to see himself in the mirror..all the time
SW-User
Fortunately never became a partner but, yes
How old is your son?
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
How old is your son?
SkeetSkeet · 100+, F
Sunnyday · 51-55, F
@SkeetSkeet there was one when his two kids and my son were all in the car. I was on the phone with Amazon and asked everyone to be quiet so I can talk. Of course being that they are all 8 and 9 they couldn’t help but to make noises. But suddenly my new husband turns around to the back and smacks my son on his knee. My son got startled and started crying. The husband says it wasn’t that hard and ignored the situation. I thought that was a very strange reaction. Why hit? And why only my son in-front of his children when they were all doing the same thing.
travelguy01 · 41-45, M
Why would you want your child to be living with a narcissist? If he's a narcissist then he doesn't really care about anyone or anything other than himself. Get out fast, and get full custody!