where to find someone?? outside workplace where most of us spend 12 hours a day. and i live in mayberry.

It's different in small, more rural areas. I hear it from people where I live. I don't know what the answer is. Proximity is a big deal when it comes to meeting people. On the other hand, just being open to meeting people can sometimes drop the right person(s) in your lap. It's interesting how that works. Good luck.