My bf is jealous of my bi friend. What to do ?

I’m bisexual myself and he knows it of course. I’ve met my friend couple months ago. Aside from the fact that I am in a relationship, she’s just a friend, not my type, not her type. We basically only talk anime and video games anyway. But she’s fun.

My bf is getting super jealous of her. We’re long distance and his issue is that he has never heard of her up until a month ago and now we’re going out once a week at most.
Thing is we’ve only been dating for three months and a half. Aren’t adult friendships basically seeing each other once in two months and then promising to go out at some point but never actually do that until three months later ?
Moreover, most of my friends in my city left to start jobs and internships, so she’s basically the only person around…

I believe I have explained everything as I should and reassured him in the best way I can. I can’t NOT see a friend that I really like because of him.

Idk, does this sound normal to you guys ?

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SW-User

Have you ever met him? Do you ever see each other or have realistic plans to see each other, or to end the distance?
It seems that you value in person connections more in real life. He may or may not, but I am going to assume toward the latter (he may not), as if he had friends of his own to hang out with, then I would assume that enough of his time would be directed toward them to where he wouldn’t be obsessing over who you are hanging out with when you’re not with him. It seems like he wants you literally all to himself, and I am assuming it’s a “I have no real in person connections so you shouldn’t either” type deal.
If this is what’s going on, then it’s a peek into what things would likely be like with him if you were to be together in person eventually.
If that’s not what you want, then my advice would be to seek an in person relationship with someone who matches you. Choose your partner very carefully and wisely.

BloodyArwin · 22-25, F

@SW-User we do tho, we meet frequently enough…
I feel like it’s the bisexual thing that’s bothering him…

SW-User

@BloodyArwin It could be, but he needs to trust you then. If he can’t, then again is he really the best person for you? You probably need to have a serious head on discussion with him about this.
I dated a girl for 2 years who was also bisexual, while I am straight. She had many other guy and girl friends, but I never got jealous over that because I knew she was interested in me and not in them in that way. He needs to be able to take the same viewpoint.