Am I the bad guy?

I friend zoned a guy because I didn’t see us being compatible in the long run. I agreed to stay friends . And then a few weeks later I start dating again and meet an amazing guy . The friend zoned guy keeps asking if I found someone yet and I say no because he was stressed out from losing a job . I finally tell him I’m dating someone and hes suddenly acting suicidal , he’s back on drugs , he lost his job , and hes gambled all his money away . I feel so guilty . But I don’t know how to fix it .

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sexyjigsaw

Looks pretty clear that he wanted your love and didn't get it. So, let him go

It is best to not be his friend. A lot of guys want deep and passionate love but struggle with how to properly work towards it or express it. This is what it looks like for a broken man, and it seems he has a lot of trauma, unhealthy coping patterns, and hopelessness he needs to overcome.

He should sort things out on his own. You shouldn't feel guilty because he has to learn to lead his life and sometimes he will not get something, even if he loves it a lot.

Be gentle with him but I advise you be serious with letting him go