Am I the bad guy?

I friend zoned a guy because I didn’t see us being compatible in the long run. I agreed to stay friends . And then a few weeks later I start dating again and meet an amazing guy . The friend zoned guy keeps asking if I found someone yet and I say no because he was stressed out from losing a job . I finally tell him I’m dating someone and hes suddenly acting suicidal , he’s back on drugs , he lost his job , and hes gambled all his money away . I feel so guilty . But I don’t know how to fix it .

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hartfire

You can't fix him, and it's not your fault that he lost his job, got back on drugs, etc.
He is responsible for his feelings and behaviours and no one else.

Grief is natural with loss, especially when feeling rejected by someone one loves.
But all of us must deal with accepting it at some point in our lives.

Addicts are highly manipulative. Don't let him guilt trip you.
Only he can heal himself; all others are powerless over his addictions.