Am I the bad guy?

I friend zoned a guy because I didn’t see us being compatible in the long run. I agreed to stay friends . And then a few weeks later I start dating again and meet an amazing guy . The friend zoned guy keeps asking if I found someone yet and I say no because he was stressed out from losing a job . I finally tell him I’m dating someone and hes suddenly acting suicidal , he’s back on drugs , he lost his job , and hes gambled all his money away . I feel so guilty . But I don’t know how to fix it .

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AuRevoir · 36-40, M

You should have told him as soon as possible..

A person can miss out on opportunities with others.. trying to be loyal..

Life is circumstantial.. he needs to find new people in his life.. having you around might be nothing more than a reminder of the rejection.. even though I doubt he sounds like he’s healthy enough right now to realize what he needs..

Hopefully the proper influences come into his life and he finds someone new who values him the way he wishes to be valued..