Am I the bad guy?

I friend zoned a guy because I didn’t see us being compatible in the long run. I agreed to stay friends . And then a few weeks later I start dating again and meet an amazing guy . The friend zoned guy keeps asking if I found someone yet and I say no because he was stressed out from losing a job . I finally tell him I’m dating someone and hes suddenly acting suicidal , he’s back on drugs , he lost his job , and hes gambled all his money away . I feel so guilty . But I don’t know how to fix it .

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BlueVeins · 22-25

Of course you did nothing wrong; if he can't accept being rejected, then he really shouldn't have asked in the first place. Hope he gets some help, nothing you can do will fix his problems.

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

@BlueVeins I feel bad in delaying in telling him about the new relationship

BlueVeins · 22-25

@antisocialbutterfly Telling him you're in a relationship sooner wouldn't have helped him.

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

@BlueVeins I just feel awful about it

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

@antisocialbutterfly Don’t ! Stop feeling guilty

BlueVeins · 22-25

@antisocialbutterfly That's your brain worms talking buddy. Everyone gets this feeling of guilt on some level, but it's not your fault that he's struggling. You really do just have to ignore it, you don't owe him jack shit.