Goodness. Men are instinctively the “leaders” and decision makers. In a good way they like being “used”- meaning they like feeling strong and helpful, for example paying for the girl or helping in a sort of way. Sure some men don’t mind when the girl pays, but most also naturally pursue women who they have to work for, so don’t be easy, don’t put out on the first date, don’t offer to pay, don’t be available 24/7. I’m not saying play hard to get, because that gets boring, but be a bit of a fun challenge to him.
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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@AnonymousJSS We don't like being used, we like being useful. Big difference 🤣
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@MartinTheFirst That’s what I was trying to say
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@AnonymousJSS i noticed, i was just helping your lil tongue out with the words 🥰
Nick1 · 61-69, M
They may be feeling little intimidated with strong independent girl like you.
Those guys should respect you that you want to share. Don’t let them make you feel bad. Stay strong. You will find right person who will appreciate all your good qualities.
Those guys should respect you that you want to share. Don’t let them make you feel bad. Stay strong. You will find right person who will appreciate all your good qualities.
PhluorescentLeech · 41-45, M
Did he offer to pay and you refused
Woofwoof15 · 26-30, F
@PhluorescentLeech no he said first thing let's split.
PhluorescentLeech · 41-45, M
Then you are better off without that dude.
Woofwoof15 · 26-30, F
@PhluorescentLeech I know almost every guy I meet either wants to split or make me pay for everything and even Then probably won't appreciate it. I like the term guys don't want to be used they want to be useful.
Maybe I should try being more selective with people while at the same time being okay with being vulnerable. When I got rid of him I felt nothing because we had nothing and our whole friendship was based on him and his feelings
Maybe I should try being more selective with people while at the same time being okay with being vulnerable. When I got rid of him I felt nothing because we had nothing and our whole friendship was based on him and his feelings
eMortal · M
Now you know how it feels to pay for a date and still be ignored or treated like shit. Imagine how it would have felt if you had payed for him too!
Same rules applies, spending money on a date does not guarantee a favorable outcome. It’s up to if you wanna keep going down that road.
My rule on dating/paying is, if I asked you out, I pay for everything because I invited you. If you ask me out, I’ll still pay at least 50% unless you really really insist on covering the whole thing.
Same rules applies, spending money on a date does not guarantee a favorable outcome. It’s up to if you wanna keep going down that road.
My rule on dating/paying is, if I asked you out, I pay for everything because I invited you. If you ask me out, I’ll still pay at least 50% unless you really really insist on covering the whole thing.