When stepchildren speak another langauge it's very difficult
In many areas, i found just the woman i was looking for.
It was under bad circumstances, she came from war in Ukraine.
She had two children, one girl, and a very handicapped son.
My first real relationship where there was kids.
We could be the greatest together, i felt strong passion, a lot of energy, just what I had been missing from previous.
Nothing was really wrong, nobody bad.
I like culture differences and all, i dated from other countries before.
But having kids that speak another langauge is very hard for the soul. More than i was prepared for.
You cannot ask how they feel, whats wrong.
How was their day.
Tell stories, joke.
Compliment or explain why they cannot do something.
Cannot help resolve conflicts.
Learn and teach.
I can ask mom to translate.
But still, in a half a year, i spoke less with child than what i did with mom in a single day.
Its possible to be there as a good person. I Believe we dont always need to say so much.
But also, in situations i felt i had to ignore a lot to be there in moments, which is not good.
Everything can feel out of control, and you dont know whats going on.
Starting to feel like a not so good influence, even if daughter would ask us, when will you marry?
Everything made me feel bad, and with bad feelings you want escape.
But i cant, i dont want to.
Mom could say.. it's just the two of us who are important, its us who are having relationship.
Yes, its one of the most important parts that we are good together, it has good influence on kids. But also still kids are and should be part of.
I would maybe never be able to be alone with her son. When just lifting a fork is a challenge, its hard to ask him to learn another langauge.
She is thinking its because she has kids. But its my ability that is lacking and the circumstances.
I could wait, but was feeling too bad and exhausted, and that it just could not work out.
Maybe i will find the energy again, but i am not sure, and even if i did, if things would be too damaged.
It was under bad circumstances, she came from war in Ukraine.
She had two children, one girl, and a very handicapped son.
My first real relationship where there was kids.
We could be the greatest together, i felt strong passion, a lot of energy, just what I had been missing from previous.
Nothing was really wrong, nobody bad.
I like culture differences and all, i dated from other countries before.
But having kids that speak another langauge is very hard for the soul. More than i was prepared for.
You cannot ask how they feel, whats wrong.
How was their day.
Tell stories, joke.
Compliment or explain why they cannot do something.
Cannot help resolve conflicts.
Learn and teach.
I can ask mom to translate.
But still, in a half a year, i spoke less with child than what i did with mom in a single day.
Its possible to be there as a good person. I Believe we dont always need to say so much.
But also, in situations i felt i had to ignore a lot to be there in moments, which is not good.
Everything can feel out of control, and you dont know whats going on.
Starting to feel like a not so good influence, even if daughter would ask us, when will you marry?
Everything made me feel bad, and with bad feelings you want escape.
But i cant, i dont want to.
Mom could say.. it's just the two of us who are important, its us who are having relationship.
Yes, its one of the most important parts that we are good together, it has good influence on kids. But also still kids are and should be part of.
I would maybe never be able to be alone with her son. When just lifting a fork is a challenge, its hard to ask him to learn another langauge.
She is thinking its because she has kids. But its my ability that is lacking and the circumstances.
I could wait, but was feeling too bad and exhausted, and that it just could not work out.
Maybe i will find the energy again, but i am not sure, and even if i did, if things would be too damaged.
