Breakups are not easy, even when you know the other persons side..

My dating history, all from when i was 15, is full of me having heartaches, over and over again.
Usually me being the one to hold on.

Now later in life, when i am more balanced in my feelings, not beating myself up. And having had longer relationships where i am the one to find out "this is not working".
I am thinking that i know all too well this feeling the other must be going thru, and i notice sometimes it's like hearing myself.
I want to be different in such situations, i know how it can be.. i want things to be good. Keep the positive together and not view all as bad. Not having this feeling of wanting to throw everything out because it's feeling too difficult.
.. but its proving almost impossible..

I cannot really say.. "hey.. view it this way, it is much better. Please understand and see.. this and this..".
Nope..

In my efforts to make things alright. It can even take a twist where it almost feels like i wasnt the one who broke up. For example me writing, but being told to stop.
I am just making things worse for some, even if its not my intention.

But both always needs to have this feeling of haven broken up i guess..
Even when youre the one being broken up with.
To having had some feeling of control i guess. Yeah, i know this too..
.. "you didnt break up with me. I am breaking up with you".