Why feminism is ruining relationships more than empowering women?

I think the relationships that femimism has ruined were already ruining the people in them. We're not born with someone or "meant to be" with a man, unless you believe in Plato's soulmates. Feminism has taught us to be sufficient in ourselves. Trust me when women are truly loved and respected and happy with someone, they're not going to break up just because they want to prove they can be alone.
For me personally, I was always a feminist and that's allowed me to choose men who are good for me (who are also feminist). I've never talked badly about any one of them whom I have chosen. I'm glad to have good relations with men knowing I will not be disrespected or abused or end up in weird power dynamics based on gender and I thank my feminist ideology for that.