Why feminism is ruining relationships more than empowering women?

All the "ism's" have the danger of encouraging people to stop treating people like individuals and just cookie-cutter members of a group identity with equal blame and privilege.

Once that dynamic is mainstream in a movement and fostering a suspicious them-vs-us mindset, it permanently divides the groups, since there is nothing any individual can do to make a connection, since they will always be part of their group, responsible for any and all of their current and past sins.

It's important and useful to understand overall group dynamics, how one class of society might be affected positively or negatively by the overall tendencies of another class, but disengaging the individuals in those groups pretty much guarantees it becomes a war.