My husband turned off my alarm clock

He made me late for work. I work 3 jobs and sometimes he complains that I don't sleep in the bed with him that much but then everytime I try shit like this happens. I've been late 3 times this month so its really serious.
I was late for my online job because he turned off the alarm in the room before I heard it.
Says he was between sleep and wake so there is nothing he could do.
He did not apologize. Claims that I should always set two alarms which I know but since I told him to set the one on his side of the bed I was depending on it. I feel alseep before setting my phone.
Pisses me off so much. Never takes things to heart.

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Scribbles · 36-40, F

I never understood relying on anyone else for waking up or setting an alarm. I just wouldn't be able to do that. Just seems like a bad idea to depend on another or share an alarm. I'd rather depend on myself because I know exactly what time I want and how much I need to get done before work and it takes 5 seconds to set. My husband and I have separate alarms. It works perfectly fine.

I suggest avoiding the stress and arguing by making it a non-issue. Just buy your own alarm, or set it yourself on your phone or whatever each night and put it on your side. Easy peasy. Now it's only your responsibility and you're taking charge of your wake up time. Problem solved.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@Scribbles Well I don't rely on him as a matter of routine but I had just cooked, washed clothes, and I accidentally laid down without setting my alarm so I asked him if he can set the alarm on his side of the bed. He said yes. A minute later I told him is very important and I asked if he double checked he said yes.
So normally I set my own too but I fell asleep. He still shouldn't have turned it off and especially seem to not care afterwards.

Scribbles · 36-40, F

@REMsleep oh, I misunderstood, I thought it was a frequent thing.

Yeah, I'd be a little mad if my husband did that to me. You're tired from working three jobs and just did a bunch of chores.
And no matter what the issue is in a relationship... the fact that he brushed it off and didn't have your back or apologize when you said it was very important was disrespectful of him. :(