Problem with my hubby.

We live with my cognitively disabled brother. He has the mind of a child and doesn’t drive so relies on us to take him places. He has a small yard work job with a former neighbour that he enjoys, and it gives him income and purpose. Sometimes the neighbour will also drive him to her house but she’s on meds right now and can’t drive.

Today my hubby is refusing to take him to do yard work bc he has a personal beef with the husband of the woman my brother is doing yard work for. Early last year The husband was supposed to do some work on our house, but he let us down and ghosted us. he’s a contractor and prob got too busy but didn’t wanna admit it. I’m over it and I don’t care. But my hubby feels that by driving my brother to their house, he’s helping them and he thinks we shouldn’t help them bc they let us down. I told him his personal matters have nothing to do with my brother, who IS the person we are helping. This was a big argument.

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Elisbch · M

I feel bad for you..😕 Husband needs to see it's not all about "him". (imho). Doesn't sound like your counselor had much luck either. (?). I agree with you, very childish behavior. I hope you can find some answers. 🙏🏻🙂

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

Told him exactly that. this isn’t about YOU. stop making it about YOU. It’s narcissistic to take mundane things and make it about YOU. @Elisbch it’s completely absurd!

Elisbch · M

Yeah, you're exactly right.
It is narcissistic. Unfortunately most like that don't see it,.. that it is absurd. I have to agree with you, on the basis of what you've written and talked about in several threads, it would be in your best interest and his for him to get a diagnosis... although, I am aware he doesn't want to. 😕...🙏🏻 I hope that'll somehow change...@DoubleRings