Love alone isn't sufficient reason to stay. You need to look at the rest of the relationship and envision living with him for another 30 or 40 years with things as they are right now.

How does that make you feel???

Here is what I do when I'm "all over the place" and because of that, I do nothing. I sit down and on a lined tablet make two columns. In this case the columns would be labeled with "Stay" and "Go". Then, in no particular order, you write down the reasons to stay and the reasons to go. Once you make the list, set it aside for a day and then at some point each day for the next couple of days you add to it (you won't get them all the first run through it).

Now comes the hard part, but the most important part. Detach yourself as best you can and look at, weigh and evaluate the two columns as if they were written by a good friend in exactly your situation, who had asked you for advice.

Don't, insofar as possible, add things to the "Stay" column that are "I can settle for this" things. This side of the page is only for things that absolutely make you want to stay, and are specific things. For example "he is a good guy" does not go there. If you feel/think this, list what makes him a good guy. Do the same on the other side. For example if you start to list a negative, be specific. Not "he gets angry". List exactly what he gets angry about and add to it whether or not you have talked to him about it, and he has or has not made any headway in resolving the problem.

After all that comes decision time and this is tough to. You'll have the information to make the decision, but it still won't be easy. I know, been there and done that. If you try this approach and still have questions, I'd be happy to tell you how I arrived at my final decision.

If you're asking, it means you already know...as I do. - the hard part in the doing, especially caring for the other person. I'm struggling with the effect it will have on them...

Basically, if you have to ask that question...it might be that time.

When you no longer feel any happiness. Just because you love them sometimes you know it's not going to go anywhere for you. But, as long as still happiness there for you are getting something out of the relationship..by all means continue if it pleases you..until it doesn't. Until there is no longer the happiness for you

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Is it love or "it's someone I got used to"?

The time to move on, is when you know the relationship is not going to work out and for that, you need a checklist of what a relationship means to you. If any of the "must have" elements is missing, then the whole is broken.

It happed gradually (14 years) to realize that I wasnt happy where I stood.... not onlt I was not hapoy but I surely was miserable and unhappy...

I have a story about it in here, but you dont need to read it if you dont feel like it...

https://similarworlds.com/9259523-I-Have-Moved-On/855565-I-married-my-ex-husband-for-the-wrong-reasons-He

When you know you're ok with being alone again, most relationships drag on because one or both are not wanting to be alone again

I figured when the annulment came through, or after she married her next victim. Mostly I decided not to reengaged.

You yourself know the advice and answer to it rather than random people .... you might just need a self dialogue or conversation with someone

I hope you can come to terms with whatever you do😣

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