When do you know it's time to move on?

I'm always telling people (even when they don't ask for my advice) that they should never settle when it comes to romantic relationships. That's not to say that I expect perfection; I'm obviously flawed myself so that would be hypocritical. That said, when do you know that it's time to move on? For people who've experienced a significant break up, did you have a "light bulb moment," or did your discontent emerge and grow gradually (and cumulatively)? I feel like I'm at a crossroads. And for a bit more context, I do indeed love him. But does love truly conquer all? I know my questions and thoughts are all over the place, but I've been sitting on this for a while and could use a bit of advice.

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fun4us2b · M

If you're asking, it means you already know...as I do. - the hard part in the doing, especially caring for the other person. I'm struggling with the effect it will have on them...

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

@fun4us2b I think you're right. Although for me, it's also the loss of what could've been, the happily ever after that never was. I'm sorry you're going through something similar.

fun4us2b · M

@AlwaysAlexis I know this is true for me: Moving on will help toward reaching those "what could have beens" since they aren't likely to happen now. I've tried so many times to do nice, fun things and to no avail, I finally stopped doing it . Thank you....

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

@fun4us2b I don’t mean to sound cynical, but I guess it doesn’t pay to be the thoughtful one in a relationship. I think that was part of my problem; when I was younger I used to be a bit more selfish and then I overcorrected in this relationship and gave in to his wishes- even when they made me unhappy. Ah well. Have you already taken steps to move on, or are you still in it?

fun4us2b · M

@AlwaysAlexis Starting to, long story of course, but it's very unhealthy. - It doesn't mean you shouldn't be giving and caring next time. It takes two to tango...we should allow the knowledge we have to help us in the future.

fun4us2b · M

@AlwaysAlexis you want to talk further? Seems we’re in the same boat….or at least a similar one….