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Am I giving my boyfriend an opportunity to cheat?

So my boyfriend has two devices and his text messages get sent to both. The other day it came up in conversation that he logged out of one to make it so his messages only go to one device. I asked him why he did that and he said it was annoying him that he was getting notifications on both. I personally think that’s a fake excuse and he did it for privacy reasons. Should I ask him if he wanted to change the passcode to the device he logged out of so he can log back in but just not tell me the passcode to it? Right now I have the passcode to the device but he’s a very private person and I think this is why he may have logged out even though I don’t know for sure. If I asked him to change the passcode and log back in (if he wants to do that) should I be worried that I am giving him an opportunity to cheat? Will he feel comfortable changing passcodes to everything after that? (Not the direction I’d want to go in, I would be doing this for him for a one time thing incase he wanted privacy)
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easterniowegin · 51-55, M
It boils down to a couple things....

If he's going to cheat, he will do it with or w/o you "giving him an opportunity." It won't be your fault, at this point.

If you're concerned about it, one of two things is happening:
- you are too overbearing and need to back off
OR
- he is giving you too many red flag signals, and you need to back away completely.

This isn't good for you. If he is toxic, remove him. Walk away, and don't let him beg himself back into your life.
If you're the one who is toxic, please find help, or you will have relationship problems forever.

I can offer more direct advice once I know more. 😉
Fifidog · 26-30, F
@easterniowegin okay message me if you want! How do I determine who is the toxic one. I don’t think it’s me I think maybe he makes me react certain ways cause he does certain things