I just told a good friend that I could not be there for her as often when she was in a relationship 2 years ago because....

I was a little in love with her. And, seeing her happy with someone else back then makes me a bit hurt. So I quietly walked away to eat my heart out for awhile. But I did keep in touch with her throughout those years, just not as frequent as before. Now that she's single, she asked why I did that. I cut to the chase and told her the truth. She's so cross at me now. I really don't know what to do. I might have to give up on this friendship.

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Oster1 · M

Not knowing the story, I don't know if a boundary was crossed or not.
I don't understand why she would be crossed, if you cared for her, unless maybe she had more than friends feelings for you too, and you didn't tell her.

Hey, you took a chance and many would have, too. Perhaps it would be better to just let her have time to think and see if she gets back in touch. Be weary of a rebound situation too, and getting hurt again. 😊🌷

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Oster1 · M

@Tinkerxbell I absolutely get what you mean. I'm very empathic and am able to feel people and gifted with a very sensiive and highly intuitive sixth sense, since very young.

I definitely understand how difficult that relaionship is, with another, that suffers. It can literally suck ones energy dry, to the extent of fatigue and illness, especially if one is extra sensitive and perceptive. At times, it's so oppressive, life smothering, etc., one may feel like it's impossible to overcome.

Allow some time, to play out, but I could not agree more, with your last sentence. 😊🌺

Oster1 · M

@Tinkerxbell Thank you, for adding me. That was very sweet. I'm looking forward to a long friendship and many interactions. It was so nice, to meet you!😊🌻

Tinkerxbell · 41-45, F

@Oster1 The pleasure is all mine.

Disguised · 56-60, M

Should make no difference to a true friend

Tinkerxbell · 41-45, F

@Disguised You mean, she and I should remain friends, right? That's what I thought too. But I'm giving her all the time and space to think about it. I hope she and I can still be friends.

Disguised · 56-60, M

@Tinkerxbell
Rejected

For all of those who've been rejected.
Please remember you were first selected.
Then as they got to really know.
How you think and thoughts just flow.
When they got to know you well.
To freely speak and to tell.
Its then you learn they aren't for you.
They listened on but weren't so true.
You'd stand and cry, pour your heart.
But all they done was TV start.
Then it’s your fault because you changed.
Although it’s them who rearranged.
You opened up to a wall.
Which you climbed but from you fall.
Failed to scale the dizzy height.
To meet the level for their delight.
Then they say it’s goodbye for good.
Then you realise you really should.
The faults not yours they were to blame.
Playing stupid mind twisting game.

Small Steps

Take small steps to learn a heart.
We understand so little at start.
As we learn our hearts will grow.
As seed of friendship we will sow.
Nurtured well and kept weed free.
Friends forever we could be

Tinkerxbell · 41-45, F

@Disguised Thanks so much for sharing those beautiful poems. 🤗

SW-User

Ok 😐

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