I spend on the women I date

I know there's a whole modern thing about going 50/50 and all that and I totally get it. But idk I guess I'm just used to taking the "provider" role if that makes sense. That's what I grew up seeing. Now I'm dating a woman who probably makes 2x what I do but I still cover all expenses for our dates, I really don't care. I only go on dates I can afford and so I pay for everything.

I guess what I'm concerned about the most is being taken for granted. I've never really known what to expect and some of my friends are of the opinion that I should make the women "earn" it. Not sure how to do that, and if they don't offer to pay but I still want to go out with them then I just pay myself. I really don't know what to expect/how to be treated in a relationship, I guess. What do you think I should look out for?

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Yeah you'll grow out of that. I was the same way but lots of women really will not even like you like that yet let you keep paying for dates. Not all but a lot feel entitled to a man's money as if spending time with them is something we should have to pay for.

You will become able to discern who is worth it and who isn't. Like carissimi said it really is down to a gut feeling. If there is any doubt then you shouldn't be paying. Go for a walk in the park or hangout in a book store. Run errands together. Lots of free shit to do for the first one or two dates.

And if she has a problem with low budget dates then she's not worth keeping around anyway 🤷🏽‍♂️. Let her go find a mine to dig in.