I spend on the women I date

I know there's a whole modern thing about going 50/50 and all that and I totally get it. But idk I guess I'm just used to taking the "provider" role if that makes sense. That's what I grew up seeing. Now I'm dating a woman who probably makes 2x what I do but I still cover all expenses for our dates, I really don't care. I only go on dates I can afford and so I pay for everything.

I guess what I'm concerned about the most is being taken for granted. I've never really known what to expect and some of my friends are of the opinion that I should make the women "earn" it. Not sure how to do that, and if they don't offer to pay but I still want to go out with them then I just pay myself. I really don't know what to expect/how to be treated in a relationship, I guess. What do you think I should look out for?

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Carissimi · F

I think it’s admirable that you pay, but I would be careful to not be used. If you feel used, then you probably are being used. It’s hard to say because I’m not a guy, and I’m from a different generation when most guys paid for a date. Times have changed, and women earn as much, or more than men. You’ll have to use your intuition about a date.

somedude15 · 26-30, M

@Carissimi I guess intuition can only come with experience which I don't have enough of

Carissimi · F

Hmm, well do you ever get a sense that something is not right, or you feel uncomfortable about certain people, even if you can’t say what it is? Then that’s your intuition. Listen to it. It’s a small inner voice or feeling that most of us ignore, until it’s too late, and we look back, and say, “I sensed something wasn’t right,” or something similar. Basically, your gut feeling. @somedude15