What's a good apology for neglect in a relationship?

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nonsensiclesnail · F Best Comment

The best apology would to be stop neglecting. No words can fix that. You can express a willingness to be a different person, to try, to want to be different but without action its just a bunch of bullshit. Words mean noting without action.

Punxi · F

Change your actions first. Then choose your words carefully once she sees it.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@Punxi that would be being around her as often as I used to. But then again I don't know if I'd need to talk to her as much as I used to since things changed like my career situation after graduating at college.

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itsok · 31-35, F

I think the most important thing for me to hear would be acknowledgement and plans for immediate change, followed by change. If someone apologizes but then it stays the same, it would seem to me that they just don’t care.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@itsok Since I graduated I do focus on both keeping my intermediate job until finding a proper one, on the other hand I do focus on preparing for that following job whenever I get home from recent work.

Anyway I don't dare interfering in her ongoing love life. She went with a jerk who she doesn't even want to move in to. She trusted me with so much about her life and has future plans which that jerk obviously can't help with. I could wait for her to leave him again, but until then I'd need to stay around and wait for her. Like she had to for the past 4 years..

itsok · 31-35, F

@scooogy good luck to you. That sounds like a painful situation with a lot of bad timing.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@itsok I knew when she was single again. But I worried for my job and so I had to focus on my life..

SW-User

Actions, that’s how you apologize

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@SW-User even if she's in a "relationship" with a jerk?

SW-User

@scooogy well that’s on her

SW-User

Change and fix it or lose it.

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