Are you sad because you lost that relationship, or because you lost what you THOUGHT you had?

If it just wasn't there, you've lost nothing. Some people have different preferences, that's all. It's nothing personal. We won't always like the same things. And in that case, it was better to find out now, rather than later...like when kids are involved. Or not.

Always tell yourself the truth of the matter...not how you'd like things to be and it will be so much easier to move on. Then you can find someone who will suit you better. Look forward to that.

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Ilena · 31-35, F

I lost a lot between last year and this one. Too much. I get PTSD since. But I don't know ..maybe the sun will shine eventually.

LadyGrace ·

@Ilena It will honey. I went through the same thing, before I realized I was grieving over what I thought I had, and being lied to. I grieved a year and two months. It was awful, and I had PTSD from it, as well. You will get through this. Promise. The only way to do it is to talk about it and as you do that, you tell yourself the truth of the matter. That will bring you back to reality. Then you can begin to heal. I'm here if you need to talk. 🤗

Ilena · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace Thank you for the support and understanding sometimes I feel I'm in my own dimension. Surreal. Sorry you went through it too but glad you're a lot better. Theres hope I suppose it's the time it's taking.... too long....🌹

LadyGrace ·

@Ilena Not better. Healed. Yes, it will take time, but your healing will come. I know that surreal feeling. I'm sorry you're going through this. ❤🤗

Ilena · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace Some things we just can't control. Take care lovely if you want to talk I'm here 🌹

LadyGrace ·

@Ilena Right! I'm completely over him. In fact, he lives in the same apartment building and I see him around, all time. Doesn't even phase me. I see him now, and think to myself, 'What in the world were you thinking?' Hahaha

Ilena · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace Hope things stay tolerable then. It's strange how things just shift isnt it?

LadyGrace ·

@Ilena Yes. Oh, we speak once in a while, but there's certainly nothing there. No feelings at all, on my part. Dead. 😂

Ilena · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace If it's for the best. Only you know what's best and safe 🌹