Relationship OCD

I’ve been in a relationship with my bf for over 5 years. I think I may fear getting emotionally hurt in my relationship and that’s why I might have relationship ocd. What can I do to stop this relationship ocd? I keep having to enter my partners phone passcode but I don’t care about checking anyone on it that much. Would not having access help me learn to not care? I can have Ocd about him downloading an app and forgetting password and changing it but it’s been fine in the past so idk why it’s bothering me now.
Maybe it’s all what you get used to. Advice please.

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AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

Quick follow up questions before advice can be given:
1) you use the term relationship ocd; in relationship science terms, that sounds like you’re describing an insecure anxious attachment style, which is often (but not always) rooted in our childhood attachments to primary caregivers. What were your relationships with parents like? No need to disclose if you’re not comfortable with the question, but I have some resources that may be helpful if you’re interested.
2) are you diagnosed with ocd or an anxiety disorder? Do you tend to catastrophize or ruminate? They’re difficult cognitive habits to break but you may want to at least try. I’d hate to see you self-sabotage. You deserve happiness!

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@AlwaysAlexis
1) I was super close with my parents and had a great relationship with them. My mom was the one I would always go to when I needed something. My dad was always there for me when I needed something too even though there was a time or two he told me to ask my mom to buy me lunch and he couldn’t cause he didn’t have any money on him (even though I always figured he could’ve charged it. Also, even though I felt very loved by both parents, my mom just understood and got me more.
2) when I was a teenager I took Luvox (Fluvoxemene, I believe it was spelt). This was for social anxiety, depression, and ocd. However, when I was about 17 years old I felt back to normal and was at a good point in my life where I felt I could stop taking this medication and was stable since even though I can be super emotional around period time.