Relationship OCD

I’ve been in a relationship with my bf for over 5 years. I think I may fear getting emotionally hurt in my relationship and that’s why I might have relationship ocd. What can I do to stop this relationship ocd? I keep having to enter my partners phone passcode but I don’t care about checking anyone on it that much. Would not having access help me learn to not care? I can have Ocd about him downloading an app and forgetting password and changing it but it’s been fine in the past so idk why it’s bothering me now.
Maybe it’s all what you get used to. Advice please.

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Penny · 46-50, F

sounds like you dont trust him and probably for good reason. if it's not for a good reason you need to let go of your worries and choose trust. if it is for good reason then i seriously suggest rethinking your relationship before it's too late and you re saddled with his kid

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Penny that’s for sure thanks for the advice! How do I determine if it’s for good reason or trust?

Penny · 46-50, F

@Fifidog i would say trust your instincts. you are young and what you wrote before reminds me of my relationship with my ex-husband when i was younger. i wouldnt trade my kids for anything but at the same time I definietly regret being iwth him for all those years. i don tknow how many people told me i was in a bad relationship wish i'd listened. get out now while you are young for someone who will treat you right and not make you feel suspicious all the time. if you think you are the problem yourself, then maybe thats what it is, but i have a feeling he;s making you feel that way. if i am wrong then just try and choose trust. what does your inner voice say? it's probably right whatever it is.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Penny that makes so much sense! Thank you for your help. Glad that your happier now!