At least you got that much. I actually reached out when they wrote something disturbing in their victim (so called) poetry months after I'd left. I did so because I still cared enough to do so, to be the bigger person, to treat him as an actual human being with compassion. If truth be told, it was probably written for the other girl who disappeared with a quickness (and admitted to sensing the desperation deal to me).
I was way too nice because I was that concerned & apologized for some of my wrong doings, and also forgave them for what they did. They never so much as cared to do so, and I'm confident these comments of yours are the reason....
[quote]That or they don’t want to believe they could be responsible for it.[/quote]
[quote]Yep.. The best is when you react to the overstepping out of hurt and they make the entire thing your fault suddenly.[/quote]
They never took responsibility for any faults during the dynamics. It was always mine. These people have no perception of reality, so why would he apologize. I wish I'd have kept it to myself because its made me resent them even more, but more so, my own self for sending it.
@MellyMel22 That's incredibly thoughtful of you, but of course, it's [c=BF0080][b]you[/b][/c]. 💕🤗
I don't believe you have given the screenshots I was shown, unless you reacted to them with a heart or hug. You probably know him from his original account because he was well known for years by being a great conversation/post starter. I think he told very few about his new account, but I took care of that and exposed his identity when I found the new one. 😏 I decided to play nice and deleted all of it, but now I regret doing that. Excuse my rambling... his mere existence here irks me beyond words.
Excuse the fact I didn't seem to offer as much support as you did me on this and the other post. You deserve so much encouragement and understanding... .... sometimes it's easier for me to show someone how much I care by showing relatability. Probably this INFJ trait we share. [center][image deleted][/center]
@MoonlightLullaby [i][c=BF0080]Oh stop! You offer more support than I expect from anyone. That sucks that happened. I am curious though now. And there’s something that you reminded me I have to tell you, silly but not for the public 😆 [/c][/i]
Yikes Mel . I’m sorry you are upset. Sometimes giving yourself a moment to reflect on it and, given the timing of your post, some sleep. A little time often changes your outlook on that interaction. Hugs Mel! 🤗
There are some lines that you just can't cross and when you do there is no way back for a lot of people. Forgiveness doesn't necessarily include transgressions of a certain level. Most of us know where the obvious lines are and if we step over them we can't complain about the consequences.
Yes, we can forgive, but that has more to do with not keeping the wound within us. Someone apologizing doesn’t mean being given future opportunities for repeat behavior.
We always tell ourselves not to burn bridges, but sometimes the other person sets the bridge on fire. And all you can do is keep walking in the other direction.
@JesseInTX [i][c=BF0080]You're so right.. [/c][/i]
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I agree. Some things touch our core wounds in such a way that even if you choose to forgive someone, something is always going to be distorted between you two.
I am really sorry lovely. It’s really crazy how things can change so quickly. The worst is when they try to put it on you. No one makes anyone do something.
