Are men necessary?
Poll - Total Votes: 21
Men are absolutely necessary.
Men are kinda necessary.
The world would be better off without men.
You can only vote on one answer.
Oftentimes I debate about posting as I typically don't get much response on my posts either because they're too long, there's nothing to add or people aren't interested in the subject matter. Nonetheless, here I am again.
This post will be similar to others I've made but it asks a very important question. Are men necessary? I'm not talking about society as a whole, but in interpersonal connections. As a man, I definitely don't feel necessary most of the time. It feels sad to compare people to a term like "necessary" but it ties back to an innate need for connection, significance and value. I'm definitely not discrediting women who feel out of place or outcast with this post, but mainly just addressing a phenomenon that I've noticed.
Men and women offer different things to each other but also some of the same things. This is also different with what men offer each other and women offer each other. Men and women offer compassion, comfort, support, empathy etc to each other both in a platonic and romantic sense. Men offer each other support, encouragement, humour and distraction but largely, at least for straight men who don't seek any kind of romantic connection with other men, this is the extent. Women can offer each other affection, comfort, support, connection, empathy and refuge. Not to say that men can't offer women these things as they very much so can, but is it necessary for them to? Women can get these things on a platonic level from other women because it is their nature, to be nurturing. Men cannot get this from other men because it's not an inherent part of our nature. I think this is the biggest problem when it comes to male mental health and the consequences of it. People underestimate how much men actually need women in their lives for their nurturing nature. But since women now can provide for themselves everything that men used to provide for them back in the day, one could easily make the argument that men aren't necessary in women's lives anymore. While men like myself yearn for the affection and love that women can so comprehensively provide, I wouldn't even know how to answer for what a woman would crave from me that she couldn't find elsewhere.
Protection? Many women learn how to protect themselves through self defence courses or through intelligent planning of events.
Support? Women can rely on each other for that.
Affection? Literally the same as above, however women can also find this within their family without the need or want for a romantic partner.
Comfort? Women can provide each other with emotional or physical comfort and some even find this more normal than having it provided by a man.
Sexual intimacy? Women have always had an easier time finding a sexual partner than males if the intent is simply to sow ones oats on a one night stand. Not to mention the rise in bisexual or lesbian women. However the ever increasing popularity of sex toys in the female world continues to render men redundant as why would you bother going to the trouble of making yourself look as attractive as you can when a sex toy doesn't care what you look like?
By and large, from the outside, it feels like men just aren't necessary in the lives of women anymore and even though this is coming from my own experience, I'd wager many men would empathise or maybe even agree with the sentiments I've shared. I'd even wager some women would also understand my perspective on this matter. Women always have had something that men crave at varying levels. To be fair, some don't crave it as they've had it or they just aren't that emotive or inclined. Some men, like myself, crave affection from a woman with every fibre of their being. Yet looking at the world today, it's getting harder and harder not to feel dejected as men are always judged on what they can provide for a woman. In this culture, there's almost nothing left that we can provide that isn't superficial or that can't be acquired elsewhere. At the crux of the issue, is the FEELING like we are never measured for the quality of our character. Or at the very least, that our quality of provision is measured before our character.
I don't make this post to attack or even to criticise but to simply address a nature of this world as I observe it and ask openly what people think it means. For me, I think it means that a lot of men might find themselves retreating from women and throwing themselves into passion projects. It won't grant them the same fulfillment as seeing the joy in a woman's eyes when she feels wholeheartedly loved by the man of her dreams but it's the only other option beyond implosion or potentially ending ones existence. Sometimes men truly believe there's no point going on if love isn't going to come their way and I can definitely understand that thought process.
I think there definitely needs to be more discussions between men and women about this phenomenon as I'm not even sure how much it's thought about let alone discussed. If anyone has any thoughts, opinions or comments, please feel free to share.
This post will be similar to others I've made but it asks a very important question. Are men necessary? I'm not talking about society as a whole, but in interpersonal connections. As a man, I definitely don't feel necessary most of the time. It feels sad to compare people to a term like "necessary" but it ties back to an innate need for connection, significance and value. I'm definitely not discrediting women who feel out of place or outcast with this post, but mainly just addressing a phenomenon that I've noticed.
Men and women offer different things to each other but also some of the same things. This is also different with what men offer each other and women offer each other. Men and women offer compassion, comfort, support, empathy etc to each other both in a platonic and romantic sense. Men offer each other support, encouragement, humour and distraction but largely, at least for straight men who don't seek any kind of romantic connection with other men, this is the extent. Women can offer each other affection, comfort, support, connection, empathy and refuge. Not to say that men can't offer women these things as they very much so can, but is it necessary for them to? Women can get these things on a platonic level from other women because it is their nature, to be nurturing. Men cannot get this from other men because it's not an inherent part of our nature. I think this is the biggest problem when it comes to male mental health and the consequences of it. People underestimate how much men actually need women in their lives for their nurturing nature. But since women now can provide for themselves everything that men used to provide for them back in the day, one could easily make the argument that men aren't necessary in women's lives anymore. While men like myself yearn for the affection and love that women can so comprehensively provide, I wouldn't even know how to answer for what a woman would crave from me that she couldn't find elsewhere.
Protection? Many women learn how to protect themselves through self defence courses or through intelligent planning of events.
Support? Women can rely on each other for that.
Affection? Literally the same as above, however women can also find this within their family without the need or want for a romantic partner.
Comfort? Women can provide each other with emotional or physical comfort and some even find this more normal than having it provided by a man.
Sexual intimacy? Women have always had an easier time finding a sexual partner than males if the intent is simply to sow ones oats on a one night stand. Not to mention the rise in bisexual or lesbian women. However the ever increasing popularity of sex toys in the female world continues to render men redundant as why would you bother going to the trouble of making yourself look as attractive as you can when a sex toy doesn't care what you look like?
By and large, from the outside, it feels like men just aren't necessary in the lives of women anymore and even though this is coming from my own experience, I'd wager many men would empathise or maybe even agree with the sentiments I've shared. I'd even wager some women would also understand my perspective on this matter. Women always have had something that men crave at varying levels. To be fair, some don't crave it as they've had it or they just aren't that emotive or inclined. Some men, like myself, crave affection from a woman with every fibre of their being. Yet looking at the world today, it's getting harder and harder not to feel dejected as men are always judged on what they can provide for a woman. In this culture, there's almost nothing left that we can provide that isn't superficial or that can't be acquired elsewhere. At the crux of the issue, is the FEELING like we are never measured for the quality of our character. Or at the very least, that our quality of provision is measured before our character.
I don't make this post to attack or even to criticise but to simply address a nature of this world as I observe it and ask openly what people think it means. For me, I think it means that a lot of men might find themselves retreating from women and throwing themselves into passion projects. It won't grant them the same fulfillment as seeing the joy in a woman's eyes when she feels wholeheartedly loved by the man of her dreams but it's the only other option beyond implosion or potentially ending ones existence. Sometimes men truly believe there's no point going on if love isn't going to come their way and I can definitely understand that thought process.
I think there definitely needs to be more discussions between men and women about this phenomenon as I'm not even sure how much it's thought about let alone discussed. If anyone has any thoughts, opinions or comments, please feel free to share.
