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Am I more invested than he is?

In conversation my boyfriend was telling me how he hates the city we live in, there’s nothing on this city for him, he hates the people here, has no hobbies here, hates his family that lives here. Then he said if he had the money, he’d move to a different town right now. However, as he was saying this what was going thru my mind is “but I’m here in this city”, “what does he mean he has nothing here he has me, arent I considered something”. I didn’t say anything but I wonder why he feels like he has nothing in this city when I am here. I told him to focus on what he does have versus what he doesn’t have. Then I told him we have each other. I find what he says kind of rude though. Like do I mean nothing to him. We’ve been dating for a few years. Am I overthinking what he says or is his words just straight up rude?
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REMsleep · 41-45, F
You might be over thinking it but either way trust your gut. He sounds pretty negative. A person with his mindset can't go anywhere in life so where are you two going together?
If he is soooo unhappy does he have plans to change his situation?
Does he ever say that he is happy with you at other times?
Does he actively point out where he'd like to go and what he'd like to do?
If not he probably is just a negative person stuck in his rut and his attitude may bring you down. He might even be depressed.