Am I more invested than he is?

In conversation my boyfriend was telling me how he hates the city we live in, there’s nothing on this city for him, he hates the people here, has no hobbies here, hates his family that lives here. Then he said if he had the money, he’d move to a different town right now. However, as he was saying this what was going thru my mind is “but I’m here in this city”, “what does he mean he has nothing here he has me, arent I considered something”. I didn’t say anything but I wonder why he feels like he has nothing in this city when I am here. I told him to focus on what he does have versus what he doesn’t have. Then I told him we have each other. I find what he says kind of rude though. Like do I mean nothing to him. We’ve been dating for a few years. Am I overthinking what he says or is his words just straight up rude?

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SW-User

You're probably overanalyzing it. I sometimes say that I want to live elsewhere (actually in another country) to my boyfriend but he doesn't take it personally because he knows I'd want us to move together. Maybe yours is thinking that as well

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@SW-User yes he’s probably thinking that but it just makes me feel a little not important or not very special. And if he was planning on being with me forever wouldn’t he want to take into consideration where I want to live too?

SW-User

@Fifidog yeah but what about the way he feels as well? From what you've written all he's said is that he'd like to live somewhere else. He probably has his reasons lol...doesn't sound like he's made plans to do it without you or whatever